Unraveling the mysteries of BDSM is a lifelong journey. That is one of its profound pleasures. The more I have honed my craft as a Professional Dominatrix the more I appreciate the depth of this lifestyle and the rich world it unfolds.

BDSM is mysterious and profound because it touches all of the dimensions of a person: intellectual, emotional, spiritual, and romantic. BDSM allows a person to understand their inner life, confront challenging emotions, and experience transformation.

Of course, it’s not all about the inner life. After all, for those who have an attraction to the lifestyle, BDSM is simply the hottest, most toe-curling sex imaginable. Nothing else compares. For Dominants and submissives BDSM satisfies the erotic dimension like no other activity.

Slut Training is a BDSM practice that celebrates and targets the erotic dimension. Of course, the inner aspects are involved. But the route of inner transformation is through a physical, erotic, ravenous body.

“SLUT” TRAINING

Before we discuss the practice of Slut Training there is need for education on the word “slut” itself.

Slut is an offensive term in modern society. It is a degrading word meant to shame women. For most of history a promiscuous man was celebrated in culture, while a promiscuous woman was looked down upon. Slut carries connotations of a dirty, slovenly woman, a prostitute or a harlot.

It is a term to be avoided in daily life. However, in a consensual BDSM dynamic the word can be embraced. This is the power and mystery of BDSM. Pain is one of the worst experiences that a person can have, but in a BDSM context it is eagerly desired. The same can be true for highly charged words. Their inherent shock and social taboo can inspire emotional confrontation and release. Handled appropriately, with consent, offensive words can be a source of transformation.

There are other words beyond “slut” that carry a similar social taboo and ability to shock. Whore, cocksucker, faggot, bitch, cock-hungry slut – used appropriately these words can inspire sadistic satisfaction in the Dominant as she spits them out, and shocking humiliation to the submissive who hears them.

In daily life there have been movements to take offensive words and drain them of impact. Feminists embrace “slut” and gay activists “faggot” to lower their valence and to shift the conversation. The power of words to impact our lives is felt everyday, and BDSM uses offensive words as tools for exploration and transformation.

THE BASICS AND THE BENEFITS

Slut training is a BDSM practice where the Dominant partner trains the submissive partner to become sexually unrestricted and “slutty”. Elements of power exchange and Dominance and submission are present. Discipline is often an element. The Dominant establishes erotic standards that the submissive seeks to meet.

Slut training is not just for women. Any gender can crave an education in tapping into forbidden erotic desires. For men the erotic charge of being trained as a slut can evoke similar emotions as Forced Feminization – the confrontation and transformation of inner gender confusion.

Dominants may tend to be bold, transgressive, and uninhibited in their daily lives. Submissives may have a tendency toward conservatism and inhibition. Through slut training, submissives can tap into a deeper feeling of eroticism, to be bold where they are usually meek, and to experience the subversion of societal expectations that hold them back from full satisfaction.

Slut training can be a comprehensive transformation. The Dominant can direct the newly eager slut on what to wear, how to act, and what to think. The submissive may be told to wear provocative, revealing, sexy outfits. They may be instructed on how to perform oral sex or be used for sexual satisfaction. The Dominant may encourage the submissive to identify as a cock-hungry whore.

Power exchange is core to the dynamic. A submissive may need the “permission” that a strong, unrelenting Dominant provides to tap into and express their deeply held erotic cravings. The Dominant enjoys “owning” the slut and thrills at watching another person transform to satisfy their powerful lust.

The benefits of slut training are profound. The practice reinforces the Dominant/submissive bond and inherent hierarchy. Submissives enjoy pleasing, while Dominants love being pleased. Through deep slut training a submissive can transcend social expectations and focus on what matters most – the inner desire to satisfy their partner. The submissive is able to tap into a depth of erotic pleasure not available unless they are in the presence of a Dominant. The Dominant’s needs for control and erotic satisfaction are met.

SLUT TRAINING 101

There are many tools available to the Dominant to train the willing slut. All of them help to transform the submissive to become more provocative and unrestrained.

Body Training The Dominant physically trains the submissive’s orifices. The Master “owns the holes” of the submissive: mouth, ass, or vagina. The slut is trained with toys if required, such as butt plugs, dildos, and strap-ons. Through consistent training the submissive learns how to excel at oral sex or being used as an erotic toy for the Dominant’s amusement. Having their holes trained is a profound experience for the submissive. The physical invasion can be shocking and overwhelming, and opens up new erotic experiences to process.

Clothing Being told to wear provocative, sexy clothing deepens the experience for the slut. A woman made to wear a low-cut blouse or revealing miniskirt can feel a freedom they don’t normally experience. Dressing like a prostitute allows them to transcend social expectations of appropriate erotic expression.

For males slut training is a component of feminization. Wearing silky panties and tight hose already inspires a feeling of gender confusion. Being dressed as a sluttly woman allows these men to experience gender transformation in a deep way.

Display The submissive is made to display their bodies in degrading and provocative poses. They may be told to open their mouths as if they are eager for cock. They may be ordered to spread their ass cheeks. Such a display evokes a deep feeling of humiliation in many submissives. Being ordered to lie on the floor and spread their legs evokes feelings of a loss of control.

Masturbation Observed and Evaluated The Dominant instructs the submissive to masturbate in their presence and under their direction. A once secret, private, and hidden activity is now on full display. Tease and denial, along with orgasm control, can be used to deepen the erotic satisfaction and enhance the control of the Dominant. Grading the performance can be used to reward the submissive or feed the desire to be humiliated.

Treating with Diminishment Humiliation can be an aspect of slut training. The submissive may be struggling with unusual erotic thoughts and fears of transcending societal taboos. Shame may accompany these feelings. Consensual humiliation is a powerful tool for confronting these uncomfortable emotions. Being call a whore, slut, or cocksucker is shocking for many submissives – and freeing. Infantilizing language, such as being called baby girl or baby boy, is another way of providing the permission a submissive requires to tap into deep erotic expression.

Public Display Being seen as a slut by the Dominant is transformative. Being seen as a slut by others outside of the partnership is another way to access the metamorphosis. In appropriate party settings it is freeing for the submissive to wear provocative clothing, to move and display without inhibition, and to be treated like a sexual object by their Dominant.

Public displays of BDSM in vanilla settings are not encouraged. It is not fair to impose a challenging dynamic on those who don’t understand the subtleties of kink. However, there are still ways to play with provocative displays that are both culturally appropriate and exciting for the partners.

Simulated Prostitution The word slut is associated not only with promiscuity but also prostitution. Playing with this taboo is another way of deepening slut training. For many submissives being made to act as an unrestrained erotic being is itself challenging. Being told that they will be “forced” to satisfy others at the whim of their owners takes the idea to another level. Coerced Bisexual encounters for men are another example. As part of their training they are made to imagine homosexual encounters. With consent they may finally experience a deeply repressed impulse as they are “forced” to satisfy a third party under the direction of their Dominant.

REMEMBER THE RULES

Slut training is one of the most powerful BDSM tools for deepening the meaning of erotic experience and tapping into power exchange in a Dominant/submissive dynamic.

Like many kink practices slut training deals with powerful emotions and social taboos. Navigating these dynamics is thrilling – but also an area where the basics of ethical BDSM interaction must be observed. Consent is mandatory for all parties. Clear communication is necessary to ensure that all parties have a clear understanding of what is allowed. Safety, both physical and emotional, is paramount. And aftercare is required to all the Dominant and submissive to integrate what has occurred and to prepare for regular life.